Codependency in relationships can be extremely toxic, especially to the individual who is struggling with the codependent issues. Individuals who are codependent tend to make their relationships more important than anything else, including their own wellbeing. Those whom he or she are codependent on often give very little of themselves, continuing the cycle of codependent behavior. This type of codependency can be extremely harmful to both parties, however often more dangerous for the individual struggling with the codependency issues. Some of the many ways in which this kind of relationship can become negative for a codependent individual can include the following:
- Fear of true expression – A codependent individual is less likely to voice his or her true feelings for fear that he or she might upset and/or scare away their significant other. This can cause them to bottle up their emotions to point where they develop serious health problems such as anxiety, depression or more.
- Neglecting personal needs – One of the most common traits of codependency is caring for others but neglecting personal needs. This can include going to extremes to ensure that a significant other is happy, despite whatever needs an individual must tend to for his or her own wellbeing.
- Inability to be alone – Many codependent individuals find that they cannot be by themselves, as they have a consistent underlying need to care for another being as well as obtain their self-esteem through others. This can lead him or her to develop negative relationships with all the wrong people, causing him or her to suffer from further emotional distress or harm.
- Refusing help from others – It is typical for a codependent individual to become excessively uncomfortable when others attempt to do things for him or her. Because they associate themselves with being the caregiver or helper, they find discomfort in others trying to help them, especially for fear that they will grow resentful for being put out to do so.
Being codependent and suffering from these many side effects of their behaviors can cause an individual to experience numerous troubles in any (if not all) of their relationships. For example, since they give so much to the other person, when that person does not return the same sentiment, it can cause a codependent individual to grow extremely upset to the point where he or she becomes seriously depressed. This type of behavior can also cause an individual to enter into a relationship with someone who is likely to hurt them, as well as cause him or her to lose track of his or her own basic, personal needs. The best way to prevent codependent behavior is to get the proper treatment to develop coping skills strong enough to negate codependency tendencies all while promoting positive, healthy behaviors that encourage successful relationships.